Create a deep, emotional bond with him and keep him from wandering. Your man has to feel comfortable confiding in you. In a world where most men feel they have to act tough just to make it through the day at work or survive a night of beer and football with the guys, they really need a place where they can be vulnerable. As a woman, you should be the one who creates that vulnerability, inviting space for him. We all know that men are not like women in the way we talk at length about our problems and speak directly about our feelings, but they do need an outlet for their built-up stress and negative feelings.
Sound familiar? In a recent poll, 42 percent of iVillage visitors say that they have a hard time getting their partner to share his feelings. When that happens, she feels shut out and he feels misunderstood. But in my years as a therapist and author, I've discovered something that many women don't realize. Men want to talk. Under the right conditions, they'll talk all night long.
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This, and other similar responses, can leave you feeling shut out, isolated, and angry. Largely, because becoming emotionally vulnerable can be an incredibly frightening experience for your guy. So when a man starts dating and finds that women actually want him to openly deal with his emotions, frustration and confusion often follow for both parties. You can do this by not immediately resorting to criticism and anger when your man fails to communicate.